How to tell if a friend is struggling: Mental Health

Afternoon my lovelies,

With all the media attention that mental health has received over the past few weeks, I have noticed it has suddenly gone quiet again. This seems to be the case repeatedly. An angel such as Sophie Gradon loses her battle and the world goes mad. There is so much focus on how real and common mental health issues are yet, time goes on and it slips to the back of people’s minds. The thing that is so frustrating, people may forget but depression, anxiety and all of the rest do not. They are always there. It is thought that 1 in 6 people worldwide are currently dealing with a form of mental health. Have you got more than 6 friends? Family? Brothers? Sisters? They could be that 1 in 6. Make regular checks. Here are some signs that potentially mean someone is in need of help. (In my personal experience and from being the concerned friend myself).

Withdrawal – If a friend who usually attends social events/enjoys spending time around friends ends up withdrawing from social situations or increasingly is spending time in isolation.

Lack of Coping – Extreme emotional responses to things which would normally not require such a response. Irrational thinking is also an indication that an individual is not coping well.

Mood Swings – Spurts of high moods which quickly turn into bad, depressive episodes may also be a sign that a friend needs some help.

Severe Worrying, Panicking and Anxiety – The emotion of being ”anxious” is infact, believe it or not a sign of anxiety. If you experience this emotion it does not mean you suffer with anxiety. It is an emotion and I think this is where the blurred line between who has and hasn’t got anxiety. But when this emotion is frequent and a emotion that becomes second nature this is when it arises to be a problem.

Frequent Feelings of Worthlessness – If an individual feels they are worthless or hopeless this can also be an indication that one needs help. Everyone on this Earth has a right to live, within reason, and if someone feels they are not deserving of this then chances are there is more going on behind the scenes that you can’t see.

Harming Thoughts –  This could be either you notice a friend has increased cuts/bruises/burns on themselves with no or poor explanation. Or it could also be increased anger in their reactions of wanting to harm others. However, if you feel you are in danger from this behaviour please call 999 and get yourself into a safe space.

There are so many other things that could raise alarm bells. If ever you feel concerned for someones well being ask if they need to talk. Reinforce the fact you are there for them whenever they are ready. But, please only do so if you intend to follow this promise through. If you feel someone is a danger to yourself or others contact the police immediately.

There are so many organisations set up to help people suffering with mental health problems. GP’s are also very good to speak to and they are there to support you with all medication and therapy treatments.

Below are a list of some organisations set up to help people with mental health issues:

Mental Health Foundation
020 7803 1101
Improving the lives of those with mental health problems or learning difficulties.

020 7780 7300
Supports people through mental health services.

Depression Alliance
0845 123 2320
Provides information and support to those who are affected by depression via publications, supporter services and a network of self-help groups.

Young Minds
020 7336 8445
Provides information and advice for anyone with concerns about the mental health of a child or young person.

0800 1111
Free, national helpline for children and young people in trouble or danger.

Relate  –  Where I receive my counselling from.
0300 100 1234
Offers advice, relationship counselling, sex therapy, workshops, mediation, consultations and support.

Anxiety UK
08444 775 774
Works to relieve and support those living with anxiety disorders by providing information, support and understanding via an extensive range of services, including 1:1 therapy.

A free, online counselling service which allows you live chat access to trained counsellors. There are also free journals for you to log your feelings and chats to speak to other young people.


Again, please remember my Instagram DM’s (@sophienash_) are always open and if you’re reading this with noone to turn to, turn to me.

Love you all,

Soph x

One thought on “How to tell if a friend is struggling: Mental Health

  1. David Nash says:

    I am so proud of you and your empathy for others and also your skill in writing and vocabulary, it is worthy of being published and I see worse written pieces in the daily papers. X. Dad


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