I hope you had the most magical Christmas, surrounded by happiness and love – however if you didn’t that’s okay too. New Year doesn’t actually change anything but it is a good time to leave things in the past and move on, bettering yourself for yourself and no one else. I have compiled a list of things I would like to put into place and things I would like to achieve in order to make 2019 a success. I started doing this in 2017 when I decided not to go to University, I was in an awful job (I have already wrote a blog post on this) and felt like I had no goals and nothing to look forward too. It helped me have some drive and focus for the 12 months to come. This is something that really helps me and I encourage everyone to have a think about what they want to achieve in the next 365 days and stick to it.
My first resolution is something I talk about a lot, stop relying on other people for happiness, I feel like this is something I always mention this but of recent it is something I have not been putting into practise. I really have felt a loss in myself where I have been feeling very dependent on others and when I don’t feel like I am getting anything in return I start questioning my self worth. This is something I want to work on, it may not be something I will perfect but definitely something I will get better at.
I would also like to focus on my physical well being to improve upon my mental well being. But as an actual lazy girl it is really going to be something hard to actually keep up. I believe that their is a correlation between being physically healthy and mentally. However, I don’t think this is the be all and end all of being happy but I do think it is a contributing factor to overall happiness. I also think by giving myself to focus on it’ll help stop focussing on other people also.
My final resolution is that I would like to get into more of a routine day to day, giving myself time to rest and time for myself. This festive period has been so busy and I am so poorly at the moment, at least for January I would like to have some family time and some consistency. I would like to make time for at least one self care night a week where I read a book, turn my phone off and just be unbothered about anything in the outside world. I think it is so easy to be caught up with everyone else but it is important to be selfish sometimes and that is why I have chosen to make this a resolution for myself.
Moving onto my New Year’s wishes… these are things that I wouldn’t really class as resolutions but more that of goals that I would like to achieve. I think these are important just as much as bettering yourself.
My first wish/goal is to buy my first car, last year my goal was to pass my driving test, which I achieved. So this year it makes sense for my goal to be the next step in that area. I am appalling at saving money so this will be a real test of self control for me. Let’s see how I get on…
My next goal is to help others on their journeys, by using my knowledge and life experience to advise as much as I can. I also think this will help me as I will be able to learn from others advice and grow to be the strongest, best person I can be.
My final wish is to travel, to see the world more. This is always something I talk about but this coming year it is really something I want to act upon. People that know me know how much seeing the world really means to me. When my mum was in the hospice she spoke to me about how she wished she had seen more of the world. I want to see the most beautiful things for her, for myself. I would love to go away alone to see some cities, not having the stress of organising with other people, however we can see how I get on with that, with my anxiety and all. However, a few weekend trips away alone or with friends will be a MASSIVE achievement for me.
I hope the next year is full of blessings and happiness. I hope it is full of unexpected happenings and lots of laughter. There will be good times, there will be challenging times, there will be times that it’ll feel like the world has come crashing down. Live for the times that make you feel grateful to be alive. You and me both. Don’t change who you are for this ‘New Year, New Me’ bollocks, keep being you and make this year a year to count.